Is This What You Want?

Why can’t we talk anymore?

 

Sometimes, I feel like I can’t do it anymore.
Sometimes, I just wanted to pause and wait.
Pause and see you walk pass, wait and see if you turn back.

Sometimes, seeing things clear could be a painful wisdom.
Sometimes, getting things clear could be the end of it.

Sometimes, my love is all I need.

Perhaps, you and I would be a better phrase now.

Call Me When You’re Sober

You know this one’s for you.

As much as I adore you, I grief, for you have show not your effort and (perhaps some, if you are true) sincerity.

Show me, prove to me, that I have pick you right.

Second chance doesn’t come around too often. I hope ours is not wasted.

Yours,
yee chian

 

巨蟹座女子的♥

温和又体贴的巨蟹座女子，很容易给人“恋爱”的感觉。如果你是一个追求“爱的感觉”的人，选择她，你肯定不会失望。巨蟹座的女人通常会给男人一种 “如果失去你的爱，我的人生便毫无意义”的信心。这真是很多男人梦寐以求的感受。不过，如果你只是个把恋爱当游戏的人，请千万不要去招惹她，因为，第一，这对 一个真情真意的巨蟹女子来说真是太残忍了，巨蟹座的女人是玩真的，感情绝不是她们轻易亵渎的东西；第二，对于某些巨蟹座的女子来说，如果她真的爱上你，想要摆 脱她可没有这么容易。你应该知道被螃蟹钳住想脱身有多难的，是不是？她的缠斗精神会让你非常惊讶，我看过一个背叛巨蟹座女子的男人的下场。此起《致命的吸 引力》好不到那儿去。当然，只有极少数的巨蟹座女子会有如此杀伤力，不过，你还是别心存侥幸为妙。

 

她的温柔体贴，以及全 心全意的爱会让你感动的不得了，很少有女人会让你觉得自己是那么的重要。但是她的情绪化也很可能弄得你几乎疯掉。她非常没有安全 感，敏感而且容易受伤。常常你的一句无心之言，就会弄得她泪流满面，或者生气不安。巨蟹座的女人有两种，当然正常的时侯都如温暖的太阳一样可爱，但是闹起 情绪的时侯，一种是带雨梨花型，另一种就是定时炸弹型。如果你遇上的是前者，情况比较幸运，平常多带两包面纸就好了。若是后者，恐怕精神压力就比较大些 了。

 

让她心情阴晴不定的原因有千百种，可能是因为她忽然觉得你好久不曾拥抱她了。也可能是你刚才对她女朋友说话的语气太 温柔了。甚至可能是你刚才开玩笑， 说她新烫的头发像鸟窝。对了！我忘了提醒你，最好不要随便批评，或是揶揄你那巨蟹座的小女人，她几乎脆弱的经不起一丝丝爱人对她的挑剔。总而言之，包括月 亮的阴晴圆缺、海水的潮汐，都可能是影响她情绪的原因，而她最大的隐忧，就是她始终在担心，担心自己是不是够好，担心你是不是不再爱她了，她经常需要你的 证实。所以我认为，对你而言，最简单的方法就是直接告诉她吧！

 

我想，除了真心爱她，没有更好的相处之道了，但你必须切记 爱她的方法绝不是姑息。当她闹情绪的时侯，给她温柔的安慰，等她心情平稳下来之后，你必须很 诚恳的告诉她，她过度的情绪化，对你造成了什么样的伤害！把你真实的感受让她知道，她是真心爱你的，她会知道应该适度的修正自己。千万不要一昧的息事宁 人，你会把她宠坏的。巨蟹座女子有个奇怪的特性，那就是如果你不告诉她“够了”，她就会不断的尝试，看你能够容忍她到什么地步。她似乎很难明白什么叫“适 可而止”。到最后她的情绪化会到了自己都无法控制的地步，当然，你也终究会忍无可忍的。

 

我有几个巨蟹座朋友的婚姻，就是 这样出问题的！到最后她当后悔当初自己太任性。但是凭良心说，那个姑息养奸的丈夫，多少也该负些责任。怎么能在宠坏她 之后，再到外面去寻求温柔的慰藉呢？说也奇怪，当巨蟹座的女子感情出了问题后，她们采取的行动也会让你大为警讶；在伤心难过之余，巨蟹座的女子很可能会去 告诉丈夫的新欢，应该做什么菜才合他的口味；她可能会从洗衣店把他洗好的西装送到“他们”的住处；她更可能用私房钱帮他付信用卡的帐单。你不相信吗？我再 发誓，这是真的。当我的巨蟹座朋友告诉我她们的伟大事迹时，我也几乎昏倒。她们就是这样，有的时侯可恶的过分，有的时侯又好的过份。她需要你宠她，她也相 对的宠你。对巨蟹座女子来说，宠坏一个男人似乎是占有他的最好办法，即使你今天离开了她，等你想清楚了，迟早还是会回到她身边的，因为没人会像她那样爱你 了。

 

所以，你应该明白，你必须学习用适当的方法爱她。如果你懂得相处之道，她会是个不可多得的妻子。你可以一生享受爱情 的甜蜜，她会为你们的家一无保留的 付出。巨蟹座的女性还有一个特点，那就是平时她虽然一副脆弱、情绪化，一副没有你就活不下去的样子，但是真的当你们遭遇到现实中的问题，连你都绝望助的时 侯，她会变成一个坚强又有韧性的女人。你可以像孩子投进母亲怀抱一样的去依赖她，她会细心的医疗你的伤口，坚强的陪你共度难关。多数巨蟹座的女子都很有金 钱观念，懂得量入为出的道理。（除非她有一个挥霍的月座或上升星座）通常她只会在心情沮丧（觉得你不爱他）的时侯，才会乱花钱来平抚内心不安的情绪。为了 你的荷包着想，常常给她“爱的感觉”才是明智之举。

 

请用一种成熟而且负责的态度去爱她！不要在宠坏她之后，再责怪她！真心的爱一只蟹子你会得到丰富无比的回馈。我衷心的希望我的每一位巨蟹座好友，都能遇到一位好男人。

Love · Life · Fun (II)

Today’s Lesson: Philosophy of Life and Love.

Life is patient, life is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Life does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Life never fails.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

Live life the way you live for love and vise verse. This is the Law of Life and Love!

Aren’t you tired and sick with so called speculation, norm and standard? What are these? If it fails to make you cherish Life and Love, it is nothing but b*llsh*t. Live by your own rules, cherish your love. It might not be the greatest to the whole world, but somewhere, somehow, it might meant the whole world for someone!

About Love: It Never Hurts

“The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread.”

- Mother Teresa

Everybody loves, everybody needs love; there’s no doubt that everybody is after it. It comes in different forms: romantic, platonic, interpersonal and even impersonal. Romantic love is the most sought after(?).

I just recently had a tinie-winie debate over love. It all started when I quoted “Love never hurts.”

Some argued that no pain no gain. As I would interpret, love is true only when you get hurt? Which in turn I came up with this example: Your mum love you because she hurt during labour, that’s how you gain love from her. This sounds super ridiculous, dude!! Let’s take another example from romantic love instead, since this is the topic I’m digging in. Let’s take lovers Romeo Montague and Juliet Capulet, two of the most famed clans in literature; they died because they love each other. Duh!! So not true!! Romeo and Juliet died IN THE NAME OF LOVE, their family’s disapproval of their love eventually leads to their demise.

Now, take a closer look, why you are jumbling up love with other qualities. While love is not quite an easy topic to master, scientists have helped us understand love, well, in scientific term, of course.

Helen Fisher of Rutgers University in the States has proposed 3 stages of love – lust, attraction and attachment. Each stage might be driven by different hormones and chemicals.

Stage 1: Lust

This is the first stage of love and is driven by the sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen – in both men and women.

Stage 2: Attraction

This is the amazing time when you are truly love-struck and can think of little else. Scientists think that three main neurotransmitters are involved in this stage; adrenaline, dopamine and serotonin.

Stage 3: Attachment

Attachment is the bond that keeps couples together long enough for them to have and raise children. Scientists think there might be two major hormones involved in this feeling of attachment; oxytocin and vasopressin.

If you are interested in how these hormones work in our body, further description is available here. *There are tips on how to fall in love, too! And it only takes 34 minutes. ^_~

Click here to get few steps closer to love!

Love itself, is, defined as an intense, universal and immensely intriguing emotion that knows no barriers of time, geography, race, sex and culture. In my context, love is only love. Sorrow and happiness are just qualities accompany love. It is not love. Don’t say it hurts you, ‘cause love really does not hurt, it never hurts.

About Love

I swear I’m head over heels for him!! This is way ridiculous and out of hand!!

Will be writing on this this weekend, here’s a sneak peak:

“.. romantic love is unstable .. you can feel deep attachment for a long-term spouse, while you feel romantic love for someone else .. ” (Fisher,2004)

If this is not captivating enough..

“the truth about love…that it was much more than material comforts and gains.” (Buzzle.com, 2010)

So, behold~